“Niggas ain’t shit”. Just plainly that. This is a saying heard by black women every single day and referenced in almost all of their daily social media posts.
To my brothers,this can be from either women we know, or women who are complete strangers and they proudly chant this saying in our faces. I guarantee that if you log onto your Facebook, it will not take you long to find a negative status about a black man.
I have a question, you ever comment on a ladies Facebook post that is bashing black men calling them “niggas”, and you ask her “damn, do you feel like that about all of us?” and she responds with, “Yup! All ya niggas ain’t shit wit y’all ain’t shit ass!” If you assume that I have, well, you guessed it. It Leaves you wondering, “how the hell did I ever contribute to being a “nigga that ain’t shit? And why do I have to be a nigga?” Right?
Well believe it or not guys, I have found that there is actually a reason why a lot of our black women wear the phrase “Niggas ain’t shit” boldly tattooed on their sleeve (this can be literal for some). These women all have one thing in common, they were all hurt more than once either mentally or physically, or both, by a guy who they once loved and trusted, which destroyed them emotionally.
Still, a certain question continues to linger on. “Why say niggas ain’t shit when it was a certain individual that hurt you? Not me nor every other black man who you’re holding accountable.” Trust me brother, there is logical reasoning behind your confusion, but the truth of the matter is, women pay attention to other women. Meaning, they see the trend of women getting cheated on and lied to by their men, they even see the unfortunate common trend of men disrespecting women and they jump to these women’s defense, whether they are friends or strangers, women are there for each other.
A young woman had told me,
“It is easier to blame an entire population than to just pinpoint to one person.” Wow! It must take pain for that to come out of a woman’s mouth, I thought. Well, for this young woman the amount of times she’s been disrespected, lied to, and humiliated by a man, a brother, was enough for her to make sense out of blaming an entire population. But she wasn’t just speaking for her, she believes that she was speaking for all black women who have their “I’m tired of black men” attitude. Do you agree ladies? Is it really easier to blame an entire population?
But why is it that when these women get hurt they end up with someone who has the same traits as the person who hurt them prior. or at times, they end up with the same person. Are the signs not clear? “The world may never know!” Said Mr. Owl
A few women that I interviewed on this topic stated that up to college, they have grown accustomed to being treated unfairly and degraded by black men. One woman said that she was told that the reason she was being slandered was because she was… Black! She was never mistreated by a white man nor ever spoken to as disgustingly from a white male as she would from someone of her own race. Which in turn, have caused her to keep her distance from black men in total.
But what for the women who don’t share in her story? What about the women who have never even been heartbroken by a man, yet they still believe they should have their hostile ways towards us brothers? Is it for fun? This is called the trending effect. Remember that I said women are known to look to each other for empowerment, leadership, and guidance for what’s the next best thing to do. In today’s society, the common trend for young African-American women is to degrade and downgrade black men,and I have learned that this is in response to the amount of years black men have degraded and downgraded them. So in a way for them, yes it is fun. It’s their, “I got the gloves on now” type of fun.
Yes fellas, we started this. And now they’ve come for the finish.
What right does this do? What right has this done? Ladies, what solution are you getting out of this? Because to me, the look and sound of you saying “nigga” is first of all, degrading to your womanhood. It puts on you a make up which no matter how “flawless” or “beautiful” the mirror may say you are, you are still ugly in the eyes of a real man. The naked truth. You give men more of a reason to side look you and help you degrade yourselves even further. Even worse, imagine the morals you are leaving behind for the generation of young women right behind you. For those of you who have daughters, nieces, a cousin you are close to , I would like for you to let that sink in…..
Now fellas you are not in the clear either. Why do they say “niggas ain’t shit”? Well, You give them reason. Why don’t they trust men? You’ve lied to them. Why do they slander you? Turn against you? Some women are actually becoming lesbians because they are tired of you? These women didn’t just wake up and made these decisions because they wanted to be adventurous. Their actions were inspired by the acts of men whom they call “niggas.” Stop giving these women a reason to call you a “nigga” and say that every man, no matter what kind of man he is, as long as he’s black, “he ain’t shit.”
You call these women “bitches”. There’s even a new name, “THOT”, specifically purposed for females. You hit them. You cheat on them. You take their hearts and walk all over it… Imagine the morals and principles you’re leaving behind to the generation of men coming up right behind you, who look up to you… For those of you who have daughters,nieces, a cousin you are close to… I would like for you too, to let that sink in.
To The Black Woman- Calling men a “Nigga” and saying We ain’t shit makes you no better than the slave master who owned our ancestors.
Dear My Lovely Queens, yes you are still lovely to me, yes I still adore you, because I know your heart, I know the tears you’ve shed which many have not seen, and I know where you’ve hidden your love. I’m here to tell you that it is alright, let it free again! As long as you hate and feed off that energy and focus on the negatives and the pain someone has caused you, you will always see a reflection of what that person has done in every man you meet whether good or bad.
It is impossible to Love when your practices are against it
Do not give up on your black man and do not slander or mentally harm your black man whom you claim you have love for behind closed doors. You need us just like we need you sisters. We need each other!
You’ve been hurt before, so you know the traits of man who deceives, good, avoid it at first sight but be fair to give every brother an equally fair chance. Your heartaches were your lessons, that heart still beats so you are still alive and that means your love is still alive, you just have to stop hiding it.
There are many false idol women who claim they represent women and they mean to empower you yet they teach you to call yourselves degrading names (bad bitches) (as they call themselves) and to toss us men to the side as if we can give no value to your lives. Be careful and be cautious of these idols. They are in your ears every day and they snatch your attention every time you lend them your time and attention. Be careful women! Black Women, you are valuable which is why you are the most targeted. So if you value yourself and other women alike, then help put an end this “niggas ain’t shit” theory and encourage your fellow women to fall in honest love with themselves first, and to understand true love between a black man and a black woman….. And if you still believe that niggas ain’t shit, well my advice to you is, stop dating niggas and find you a man, because there is a difference. It is absolutely not hard to find a good man, in a black man. But first make sure you’re a good woman.
Do you agree with my “Niggas ain’t shit” theory, or do you have your own beliefs & conclusions on this topic? Feel free to share your thoughts in the comments. This is an open discussion!