“You can’t do it!”
“You’ll never accomplish that!”
“You’ll fail, so don’t even bother.”
“You’ll make it far, but not far enough.”
“Yor dreams are unrealistic!”
“You might as well just give up now.”
Noises! Noises! Noises! Said, the noises of society.
How many of you been told if not one, but all of these things? Come on, raise your hand. How many of you when told these things, believed them, and are still to this day, where you were when you heard them. Don’t be ashamed, it’s ok, raise your hand. And how many of you, even when you heard these noises along with more noises ,all coming after you, you still kept going, you still kept believing, and you’ve made it to where you’ve said you were going to make it. Come on, raise your hands with me.
Everyone of us has a dream. Everyone one of us has somewhere we want to be, and something we want to be. I’ve always wanted to be someone who would end up changing the world. As a child, I grew up in a rough area, where I’ve seen things that no child should bare witness. Death, death by murder, death by suicide, seeing attempted murder. Abuse, physical abuse, mental abuse, and verbal abuse not only out there in the public, but inside of my own home. I remember a certain conversation I had with my mother.
Me- Mom, why do people kill each other?
Mom- People do bad things to other people when they’re angry.
Me- Are you angry at me?
Mom- \*laughs\* No baby I’m not angry at you, and your momma would never kill you. You’re all I’ve got, and plus, you’re just too cute to kill! \*She grabs me and starts giving me numerous kisses on my cheek\*
Me- Well one day, I’m going to put an end to death, I may even ban it!
Mom- Oh yeah? Is mommas baby gonna become president?!
Me- I’m going to show people, that they don’t have to kill each other, that there are other ways. I’m going to show people that all they have to do is be happy, that is all!
Mom- Oh is that so? Just be happy huh?
Me- Yup! Just be happy, Cook for each other, have fun, play video games, be friends, go to the park, and just say I love you! I think that people are only angry because nobody’s telling them that they love them. Well when I grow up, love is going to be a requirement, everyone is going to have to love everybody. That way we can all just be happy, and there be no more death.
Mom- \*smiles\* I hope you still feel that way when you grow up baby… I hope you still do.
So you see, being a contributor of change has always been my passion, my life goal. Sure there have been many people along my way who have told me that my dreams were unrealistic, that I was daydreaming. And if I had listened to them, you wouldn’t be reading this article right now, there would have never been a trulovexists. I know what it’s like to sit in darkness, to feel like theirs no hope and wanting to turn over on the bed and never to get up out of it.
I know what it’s like to feel alone and that there’s nobody there to support you, I was homeless. I know what it’s like to feel like you have no reason to go any further than a current situation, I was a high school dropout with no job, and I made money by the way I was taught. I know what pain feels like, I know what struggle feels like, and I know what those noises of society sounds like! I’ve heard them in my ears for years, and they never did stop. Yet I still managed to get up. I went back to school, got my GED, I applied for college, got in, and I got an apartment. I did what society said I couldn’t and wouldn’t do, because to society I was just another black male who had failed. Hi society, tell me something, how am I looking to you now?
Many people have given up, many people are still lying turned over on their beds. Simply because, the voices of society, are the only voices they are hearing; so that’s all they know to believe. I didn’t get to where I am alone, I had other voices that helped me see my true strength, that helped me realize that I was capable of winning, even in a losing situation. I’m here to tell you that you too, no matter what situation you’re in, can beat the odds, even when so many are stacked against you.
Here are the ways.
Meet Sgt. Can
Go in the bathroom, look into the mirror, and give yourself the hardest tough love prep talk! I’m talking tougher than the tough love that came from your parents and your grandparents. Tell yourself, “Listen here now! You’re going to do this and you’re not going to give up, because if you give up, you might as well kill yourself! Do you want to die? Because I’ll help you do it too. You’re going to go out there and you’re going to plant your feet into the world and tell it, world, the rules have changed. There are now my rules and things are going to go my way. You’re my bitch now! Ok? ok!”
Get rid of Society’s Messengers
All of those people who tell you that you can’t do this and you can’t make it or that your dreams are foolish, they are society’s little negative messengers and you need to get rid of them. I don’t care how long you’ve known the person, if they are your friends or if they are your family members, get rid of em! I had to do it myself, believe me. They’re the reason why you’re still slumped, they’re the ones keeping you down, get rid of em!
Get Ready, Get Focus
The road to success is not an easy road, and some people actually choose to accept failure because of it. They rather give up, because to give up and accept your place in society takes no hard work at all, you actually can receive help doing it. Decide what it is that you want to do and what it’s going to take for you to get to it. Let yourself know on a daily, how important it is that you reach your goal. This could be looking at your environment, seeing the people who are around you, or even looking into your bank account, to inspire you to say, “I need to change this, now!”
I wasn’t joking when I said that the road to success wasn’t easy. In order for you to make progress, in anything and anywhere, it’s going to take the sacrifice of something. This may be you getting rid of those that you held close to you but were also providing you negative energy, it may mean less sleep so that you can work harder, it may be that you have to give up certain habits, you may not be able to be as idle as you were, or it may be something else that’s personal. Whatever it is that you’ll have to sacrifice, don’t worry about it, because what you’ll end up gaining will let you know that it was worth it.
My uncle Mike will tell you, “I love me some me!” lol. But I’m going to keep beating this into your heads, because there are not enough people who get the message of how important it is that they have an infinite amount of love for themselves! There are many people out there looking for love, to fill in the void of the lack of love they feel for themselves. I’ve seen this, I’ve felt this, personally. It can really be death-defying. So once again, I’m adding to the list for you to love yourselves! That is how you’re going to progress! That is how you’re going to make it! Be your number one supporter, the reason why you keep going, be your own reason for why you refuse to fail. Love yourself, and I promise you, the only impact that society’s noise will have on you, is making you laugh.
This is TruLove, Opening up your hearts & Expanding your minds! Peace ✌